Who is on your support team?

We don’t heal in isolation, but in community

S. Kelley Harrell

I cannot do what I do in my life without several people – my husband, my kids, my family, and my close friends. These people are my support network. I’m not referring to one particular aspect of my life, but all of it. Everything I do I pretty much rely on the support of other people, and I think that’s the same for most people. Life is tough. No-one gets through it unscathed. There are good times and bad for all of us, and it’s only human that we should want to share that with others.

Each person plays a unique part. No two people really give me the same support. My husband is ever supportive, and my sounding board. He is the calm to my ‘have to do everything NOW’ approach to life. He listens when I’m down and encourages my ideas.

My friends pick me up and encourage me, and give me a laugh when I’m feeling rubbish. No two friends are the same. They give me individual pleasures. One I talk to about music, spirituality, life, dreams and ‘real’ stuff, whereas another I talk to about work, and body positivity, and eating, and the trials of being in business. I have a friend that I have daily motivational chats with that are beyond helpful – thank you Lyndsey.

No two friends are the same but they all are very much needed in my life.

Happy senior couple hugging in a supporting manner in autumn park

My kids inspire me to be my best and give them someone to hopefully look up to. A role model, a teacher, and someone to help them through life. But in helping them it helps me. It gives me a purpose that isn’t just my own issues, and the pleasure I get from seeing them thrive and grow into beautiful adults is amazing.

Everyone needs this support network around them, no matter what they are trying to achieve. There are few people who can go without and do it alone, and I’m sure that even they would appreciate a friendly face and a few kind words every now and then. No man is an island and all that.

Some might say that this support is even more important if you are on a journey with your health, body size and nutrition. It’s such a personal thing to work through and you need people close to you to celebrate the wins and help you up when you’re down. Share with people around you what you are trying to achieve.

Make these people are people that you trust to help you. Is that your partner or your parents, maybe your grandparents? Have you got a large group of friends that can help, or just one or two that are totally trusted? Trust is super important because you’ll be more likely to open up and be honest when you need a pick up from them.

Tell your chosen team how they can help and what they need to do in order to support you. Explain your reasons why and tell them how important it is to you.Tell them the things that affect you and where you might need some extra support. If you don’t like comments that you regularly hear, ask them to stop and reframe what they are saying. Ask them to respect your choices (as long as they are safe and healthy!) and then speak up and use them when you need to. 

Four women sat laughing, chatting and supporting each other

Whether you need time to talk about something, or just need a hug, it will make all the difference to your success and they will undoubtedly be happy to help you.

Who’s on your team? Who is your biggest supporter? Gather your tribe and look after each other. Remember, whether you have a team around you or not I am here. I will help, support and guide you. I will be a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. I’m very good at making people feel a little cheerier you know! Be sure to stay in touch on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter and we’ll get life’s ups and downs together.